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Erin, today, I want to talk about how to stop comparing yourself so you can build momentum, even when you are scared. And so just because somebody else can do it doesn't mean you're failing if you can't. So comparison is that easiest way to store your momentum and stall your money? So I want to share with you how to stop feeling like a failure and start doing the scary things and build the momentum that actually creates financial results. Because you know the truth is that your progress isn't meant to look like somebody else's, and I know that this can feel very scary and overwhelming, particularly when you're wanting to have more or do more, and that trap of comparison is really just such a thief of taking away the joy and taking away that momentum that you can build so it for me being an accountant, I have felt like I have felt like I've been a failure with my money for a very long time. I have felt like I need to be further along. I need to be doing more. I need to have more money in the bank. Like, who am I to teach about money if I don't have hundreds of 1000s of dollars in the bank. But you know, the thing is that you don't need to have hundreds of 1000s of dollars in the bank in order to feel rich, in order to feel like you are living a grounded, rich girl. And that's why I love this space, because creating your version of rich is what is the most important thing. Now, don't get me wrong, you need to have money, and you need to have your money under control in order to create that life that it is that you do want. And so being good with money for me has meant that I've taken control. I've been able to leave a job that I had for a very, very long time, like over 25 years, I was able to leave that job step into another job,
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but and then at the beginning of this year, I was able to step back from full time employment and step into my business full time. I couldn't have done that if I didn't have my money under control, and so I don't have hundreds of 1000s of dollars in the bank, just being completely transparent here. But the thing is, if I didn't have my money in order, if I didn't have that feeling of control and being on top of it, there is no way I could have been able to step back from my full time role. But you know what? It took me a very long time to be comfortable with being able to step back and being able to
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realise that I don't have to have all of that money in order to feel successful. But the the accountant space and the accountant in me, being very analytical and being very numbers driven, it has meant that I was comparing myself to a lot of other people, and that really took away from me,
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you know, that joy and that in sense of accomplishment and success in different ways, because I was so focused on the money all the time. And you know what? Comparison is natural, but it I now use it as a driver in order to
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look at what it is that other people are doing that I want. What do they have that I want, rather than feeling that lack that I'm not doing something, or I don't have enough, or I'm not good enough, using it as motivation instead to dream bigger and think bigger and challenge myself and move into that space of what it is that I want. And so the thing is that you need to think about with comparison. Is your only competition should be the version of you yesterday. So who you were yesterday. How do you want to move forward? How do you want to grow? How do you want to get better? And how do you want to step into that space where you are feeling in control and you are feeling like you are moving forward. And as you know, this week, I am heading to Bali tomorrow, talking about scary things and doing things that
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really have that fear behind them. Today, I had to catch the train by myself to Central Station in Sydney. I then had to get on another train. I then had to find my way to the accommodation. And now for some people, this may seem like just like, What are you even talking about? Just get on with it. That is so normal. It's so easy. Anybody can do that. But the thing is, I don't usually do that, and I don't do it by myself. So when I do travel, I.
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Am always with my hubby. We got married very young. We've done everything together, and so doing these things solo now, like I have done this year, which I have done so much travel this year, which I didn't think that I would do at the beginning of the year, it, it sort of didn't come onto my radar. But I am doing things now that are for for the first time, they are the things that really scare me, like travelling by myself is scary. And you know what? Though, doing those hard things is possible. What I needed to do was break it down into the small steps. So the first step was getting on the train. The second step was getting off at Central The Next Step was finding the next train. The next step was asking for help when I got to the train station, about where I needed to go to the accommodation, it may feel big and overwhelming, and I could feel my heart racing, and I could feel like I was getting overwhelmed and anxious, and that fear is a sign of expanding. It is that I can step into hard things, I can do things that feel scary and feel challenging, but I know I'm going to be okay. And instead of thinking all the time, well, what's going to go wrong? What if I can't do what if I mess it up? Or what's going to go wrong? All I needed to do was break it down and take those small little steps and just step into that next space, which is the same with if we bring it back to our money, like, how do we avoid
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feeling financially stuck or financially in that paralysis mode. How do we get out of that, and how do we start to be able to create momentum, and if we always avoid the hard and scary things, if we always avoid looking at our bank statements, if we always avoid looking at money and feeling anxious every single time we talk about money, you are not going to get momentum. And I can tell you that hard things build the growth. Hard Things are where you step forward, where you build that resilience, where you step into that space where you never thought you could, and I get that it's hard, and, you know, travelling this week, or, you know, today, and then for the next week, I'm going to be travelling by myself. That is really hard, and it is really scary. But if I don't do it, I am always going to be stuck in this place of thinking that I can't or that I I'm not going to be okay.
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But seriously, what's the worst thing that can happen and travelling? You know, maybe there are some bad things that can happen, but you know, there's always also some really good things that can happen too, and that growth and having to figure things out by myself is going to mean that I am going to build momentum. I am going to prove to myself every time I do these hard things, that I can do hard things. And I know that when you do hard things, they become easier. And if we stop attaching a story to the event, and the event being well, I'm not good with money, or I can't travel by myself, or solo travel is scary. If we keep adding story to that event, we are going to keep creating problems. We are going to keep creating this fear and perpetuating the fear in our body. So instead, we need to just have the event, take the emotion out of it, take the story away from it. It's just the event. And so I want you to think about, how can you start to do one thing, check your bank statements. Have a look at where your money is going. Have a look at where your income is coming in. Have a look at the subscriptions that you have, have a look at the bank fees that you are being charged. Have a look at the amount of takeaway that you are having. Have a look at that thing that feels scary and it feels overwhelming, because that is where you are going to create the momentum, put yourself in a situation where you are anchoring in to something you already do, and add this new step in, bring in something that will allow you to feel comfortable and feel safe and feel secure, but then also adding this new thing, because I know that when you start to to do things that feel scary, when you start to
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do the hard things, even when it feels uncomfortable, that is when you are going to build the momentum. So stop comparing yourself to others. Stop thinking that you should be further along. Stop.
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Thinking that you should have all of this figured out by now, which is what I did when I was in that accounting space full time. I continuously felt like I should have this stuff all sorted. I should be further along. We should have everything sorted. And that word should is such a powerful word because it puts so much expectation on me to have everything figured out. But just because somebody is good at something doesn't mean that I have to be good at it too. And just the same as you, if somebody is good at money and you don't feel like you are good at money, that's okay. You don't have to be like them. But what is it that you need to do for you? What is it that you need in order to feel like you are good with money, to feel like you are successful, to feel like you are growing, to feel like you are moving forward? What is it that you need? And that's where you can really lean into that grounded, rich girl space, because that is where we are creating our own version of rich, whatever that looks like for you. What feels good for you is that having retirement savings. Is it having travel every year? Is it having enough money in your bank account so you don't have to check your account when you go shopping? Is it that you have slow mornings because you now don't work a nine to five you work when you want, or is it you work three days a week instead of five days a week? Whatever it is, it is that you are choosing how to show up for you. And so I want you to think about that fear. Use that as the the catalyst, or the sign that this is something that you can do in order to move through and push you into that new space. And we want to create safety. We want to make sure that you are feeling safe within your body to do these things and create the momentum. Because if we bring it back to money, we want to have enough money to be able to do the things that we want. Money gives us choice, and it gives us freedom. And so we need to stop apologising for wanting more money, for charging more, for having more money in the bank, for dreaming of success and being successful. We need to stop hiding. We need to step up and go, I own this. This is what I want, and I am ready for it. And so just because somebody else can do it doesn't mean that you are failing. If you can't, your only job is to take the next scary step.
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I'll say that again, your only job is to take the next scary step. Just look at it one step at a time. What is the next thing that you need to do?
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Definitely have the big goal in mind, but when you are feeling scared and overwhelmed, it is just what is the next step? You need to stay the course and take the emotion out of it. Look at the people who are doing what you want or do have what you want learn from them. Sit back and watch. What do they do? How do they show up? How do they just get on with it and move through it? Because every time you do, you are building momentum, and that momentum is what leads to more money. So if you want help to build the momentum, start with the money audit. There is a special offer on for just the month of September to get your money audit done, and this is the first step in getting really clear on what's holding you back. I know that when you get clear on those things, we have the actionable step that is where we create the change. But if you are ready for that deepest support. I would love to invite you into the grounded rich girl programme. The next round kicks off mid October, and this is where we take scary steps in a sustainable money momentum way we go and do the hard things. We create the momentum we take that weight, that heaviness that is holding you down, and we move through it. And I don't want you to wait until you are perfect, or you have everything in order, in order to create your own success. Creating your own success starts now, and that is by deciding. So decide what you want, decide that you are going to do it anyway. It's not about fake it till you make it. It's not about, you know, pretending to be all okay. We are super okay with being vulnerable, being scared, being worried and overwhelmed. But you know what? We get it done anyway. We move through it, and we choose to show up in a way that creates momentum. So let me know how you feel. What is it that you are going to do, even though you feel scared, because they are the things that I want to know about. I want to celebrate you. I want to encourage you. So let.
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Me know, what are you going to do this week that feels scary.
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