65. Nervous System Regulation: The Hidden Money Hack With Naomi Galliano

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What if burnout is not just exhaustion but your nervous system asking for safety? In this episode, Erin Davis talks with trauma-informed coach Naomi Galliano to unpack nervous system regulation, burnout recovery, childhood trauma and how unresolved patterns can affect self-worth, relationships and even money. Naomi shares how ambitious mothers can break free from negative self-talk, emotional overwhelm and unworthiness by healing the trauma stored in the nervous system. Erin and Naomi also explore why trauma is not always the big obvious events, how burnout can show up quietly and why healing your inner world changes the way you show up in business, motherhood and wealth.

Key Points

👀 In this episode, Erin covers:

✅ What burnout can actually look like beyond everyday exhaustion, including brain fog, emptiness, loss of passion and adrenal insufficiency.

✅ Why nervous system regulation is not about feeling calm all the time, but balancing growth, stress and recovery.

✅ The difference between big T trauma and little T trauma and how both can shape adult behaviour, self-worth, and decision-making.

✅ How childhood experiences can influence the way women relate to rest, success, money, receiving and safety.

✅ Naomi’s three-step approach of awareness, attunement and action to help women release old patterns and create new evidence of safety.

✅ Why healing trauma supports better money decisions, clearer action and a more grounded, aligned life.

Show Notes

Burnout is thrown around a lot, but what does it actually mean when your body starts saying no?

In this episode, Erin is joined by Naomi Galliano, a trauma-informed coach who helps ambitious mothers heal deep nervous system patterns connected to negative self-talk, emotional overwhelm and unworthiness. Naomi shares her own story of burnout, including the brain fog, exhaustion, flatness, and loss of inspiration that left her unable to show up in the way she once had. She explains how her recovery led her into deeper trauma work and a new understanding of what was really happening beneath the surface.

Together, Erin and Naomi explore what nervous system regulation really means. Rather than aiming to feel regulated all the time, Naomi explains that the goal is to create more balance between stress, growth, spaciousness and recovery. This is especially important for women in business, where constant pressure, over-functioning and people-pleasing can quietly drive burnout.

A powerful part of the conversation focuses on trauma. Naomi breaks down the difference between big T trauma and little t trauma, showing how even seemingly ordinary childhood experiences like emotional invalidation, needing to earn love, or growing up too fast can leave lasting nervous system imprints. These patterns can later show up as procrastination, self-sabotage, difficulty receiving, fear of slowing down, or not feeling safe to have more money and success.

Naomi also shares her healing framework, including awareness, attunement, and taking action. She explains that inner work matters, but real rewiring happens when women also follow it up with new behaviour, creating a corrective emotional experience that teaches the body it is safe to move forward.

This episode is a powerful listen for women who are ready to understand themselves more deeply, regulate their nervous system with compassion, and create success from a place of safety instead of survival.

Timestamps

00:00 – Intro to Naomi Galliano and what this conversation covers
02:30 – Naomi’s story: motherhood, trauma and burnout
06:30 – What burnout really looks like beyond being tired
10:30 – Why rest can feel unsafe
14:30 – Attachment, authenticity and honest conversations
19:00 – What nervous system regulation actually means
24:00 – Big T trauma vs little t trauma
29:00 – Trauma, money, receiving and self-worth
34:00 – Naomi’s healing framework: awareness, attunement and action
39:00 – How to connect with Naomi and her offers

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Episode Transcript

alright so we are live um so today I have
Naomi Galliano
with me and now Naomi is a trauma informed
coach who helps ambitious
mothers break free from that emotional roller coaster
of negative self talk
emotional overwhelm and unworthiness
by healing that really deep intergenerational and
childhood trauma
stored in the nervous system so through her specialized
three step approach
she empowers mothers to finally feel worthy connected
and at peace with themselves and their relationships
so Naomi and I have been friends for a long time and I am so very
grateful and excited to
share Naomi with everyone today
so thank you for joining me
thank you so much my dear
friend for having me on I'm very
excited and I feel very honoured and loving
the work that you're doing so thank you I feel
you're very um blessed to be doing this with you
thank you
so that was just a little introduction about you
tell me a bit more about you and what it is that you do
yeah absolutely
so a little bit about me I am a married
mum that lives on the Gold Coast I have three children
my daughter is 22 my boys are 13 sorry 14 and 15 now um
all of my children have a diagnosis of ASD and um
you know motherhood
was one hell of a journey for me you know
it really pulled me from pillar to post and
I struggled a lot with my emotions which
actually is what LED
me to to get into this line of work uh
I found something
about six years ago that really helped me to shift
everything on a deep level
a female specific approach
which completely changed my life because
I came from a lot of trauma myself
like I was one of seven
kids we were raised in very strict religion
and there was a lot of verbal
and you know physical abuse
that happened we were physically punished
and then being the fifth child of seven I had two older
siblings that were particularly mean so
my trauma didn't all come from my parents or anything
but you know there was a lot to work through and
out of seven kids there's a lot of mental illness
in our family like serious
mental illness and problems
with addiction and things so
I had my work cut out for me as far as breaking
free from that so um motherhood really
was I guess the catalyst you know wanting to be
the best mum I could possibly be was the driving
force behind me
deciding to make big changes for myself in my life
even though I've been working on things before then
uh and you know I became trauma informed
around the time that I I burned out which was now
around
four years ago and I took two years to recover
from burnout and in that time in that recovery time I did
get into doing some courses
that really helped me to understand
what was happening more deeply in my nervous system
and what was driving
you know this burnout that seemed to have come from nowhere because
I felt good mentally
uh it's just that my body
said no my body was like no you we're done
we're done for a while and then I was really forced to look more deeply
at what was still yet to be healed and worked on so
yeah that's a little bit about me
what does burnout look like because I feel like burnout
gets thrown around quite a lot
um and sometimes it's maybe a bit of an excuse as well
but what does it actually look like and what did it look like for you because I presume
it's different for different people it absolutely
can be and you know what's
interesting Aaron is for the first
year I didn't actually know I was in burnout
what had happened was I was working
at my business really hard for about three years and
and in that time Covid
happened as well which I think put extra pressure on everyone
and so when initially my symptoms were
really bad brain fog and I
remember it clearly because I was preparing
for my very first live in person
presentation where I was a guest
speaker in front of 60 women
and for the life of me I could not put together
this presentation I was just so exhausted
I didn't feel like it I didn't want to do it but I had been booked in for like eight months
but I couldn't think and I didn't have
I I just I didn't have the energy
but in terms of the symptoms brain fog
exhaustion um so needing more rest
and I ran out of I just had no inspiration
I actually felt quite empty
I you know and I love I love my work
and I got into this line of work because I am really passionate
about it I had always wanted to help women
but for that time I had nothing left
I just had nothing I didn't want to take on new clients
I didn't want to try and get new clients
I didn't want to post on social media
I just really wanted to just chill
and and I didn't the inspiration
was gone and I just felt
empty so even if I wanted to write
something there was just nothing coming
and so the desire to do my work the deep
inspiration and spark that I felt
had completely gone out and I just thought
at the time oh well I'll just
take a bit of a break like you know get this speaking
thing done and then I'll just take some time and
six months later I still didn't really feel better
and so then I took up this exercise routine thinking
that that would help me feel better
okay well maybe if I do more I'll feel better
and so I did that and I was doing that for I think
around about eight months you know getting up at
five in the morning
doing four days a week of intense exercise and it was
the day before my 30
41st birthday I went to the doctor
for some blood test results
and that's when she told me I had adrenal insufficiency
and so that was 15 months after my no it was nearly
17 months after my initial symptoms
and so I had been resting
like I hadn't been working or doing that much but
my cortisol levels were lower than ever
at that point in time and then I was like what the hell
like what's
really going on here and there must be something deeper
that I haven't looked at
so you had a blood test and that showed your cortisol
levels is that right yeah
that's right so you can test for that
you can test yeah you can test for cortisol levels
yeah right OK um so like mums we feel pretty exhausted
most of the time
anyway I think cause we're doing so much
what takes it from that exhaustion level as in a normal
you're just coping with life to a burnout
like there's there seems to be a big jump to
that everyday exhaustion
that everyday on the go that type of stuff to then go
no hang on this is next level
there's something else going on here
that's an interesting question and it's a good question
the biggest indicator for me was
that I'd lost my passion and spark
for what I loved to do
and had I had the cortisol levels tested earlier maybe
it would have shown all the way back then
that the cortisol levels were low for me what the blood
test actually did like that so that's
that's a diagnosis of what they call adrenal
insufficiency otherwise known as adrenal fatigue
that's what the blood test showed so for me
the blood test was proof
that actually there was something deeper going on
it was just evidence and then from that I was able to
say to my husband
I actually really need to take a complete break
from things
and
it was almost my permission to rest and
I share this because when I started to look more deeply at what was underneath
my burnout
what was revealed and and so I've been doing
work with Mastin Kip who's the the nervous system coach
that's when I Learned I have was showing
symptoms of burnout but I haven't yet had the test but
he they
were in the coaching it came up with a lot of people
um that I
was well that's burnout I'm like oh okay I must be in burnout
um I was also doing gene keys
work with a dear friend of mine and then when I
had the blood test I also did some more coaching
work with another friend of mine who had a similar
background with it being trauma informed
and what we discovered through this deeper work that
for remember the 17 months I was resting
before I had the blood test
I was studying I wasn't taking clients
but I wasn't really
doing a lot like I was living quite a leisurely life
which I'm very blessed to be able to do I know most women
can't do that um
what we found in terms of the deeper
thing that was happening the deeper stress response
was that because of my childhood
I did not feel safe to rest
and so even though I was resting
I was stressed while I was rest resting
because I felt I felt guilty
I felt I should be doing more and I was still hiding
the fact from my husband that I was resting
so I was still doing all the things that he
you know he kind of thought I was still really working
through that stage where I wasn't because
I was still keeping busy enough on the surface because
how what I and it all comes and burnout
and and whether or not we burn out comes down to
how much energy we are putting into
living up to the expectations
we have of ourselves but also the expectations we think
that others have on us
and so it comes down to when not
don't feel fully safe to be ourselves
like our true authentic
self and I didn't feel safe to go hey I'm really
struggling
right now and and I don't know what to do because
I thought my husband
saw me as the strong one he saw me as
like an amazing wife and mother
who did all this stuff who didn't stop
who was very hard working
and he told people how wonderful I was
and so I kind of felt like oh I better live up to this
expectation because if I don't
will he still think that I'm amazing as amazing as
he tells people I am and so I was still
keeping up a bit of a facade a bit of an act a bit of
pretending a bit of masking whatever you wanna call it
because I
I was deep down
and it was not a it was an unrealistic and unjustified
fear in terms of from in the dynamics
of my relationship with him but it was justified
based on my history I was afraid that if I
slow down or stopped or you know rested
too much that maybe he would think I was lazy and
maybe less amazing than
he was telling everyone that I was so I was still
kind of pretending
I was still putting on a bit of a show and that's what
comes from is we're not fully being authentic
so we're using up extra
energy to portray ourselves a certain way
so how did you move into that space where
you effectively um
had permission from yourself
and obviously your husband would support you 100% but
give yourself that permission to really
slow down really rest really
move into the space of that nervous system regulation
like how do you just go from there to there
suddenly now you can give yourself that permission
yeah so as I said the blood test like having proof
that there was actually something physiologically wrong
was super helpful but then
in the work that I was doing with other people I realized
oh there's something deeper happening here
and I was listening to a lot of Gabrielle
Matay at the time and Gabrielle talks about this idea
of attachment versus authenticity
and he talks about how in childhood
as children we ultimately and
and listen to his stuff he's amazing
if if you're listening to this and you haven't already
but he talks about how as children
we ultimately need to make a decision can I be
can I be myself
or can I remain attached
because remaining attached often means we need to
hide who we are we need to suppress our emotions
we need to do what our caregivers
expect of us we need to be
the whatever helps us to remain
attached and loved so that we can remain safe
and so in my nervous system
I had in my relationship with my husband
brought in this dynamic of can I remain attached or
or can I be myself but I made a choice and I chose to
suppress myself
to remain attached and that's the discovery
that I made so what changed
well I had once I made that discovery
I actually had to do the hardest thing I'd ever had to do which was to have a really
a honest and vulnerable conversation with my husband
about how I felt
and what was going on for me and this you know what had
carried on through childhood
and I'm like I know this isn't this like this isn't
because of you but this is the dynamic that I have carried on and this is what I'm working
through and I would really love your
support in working through this and that means
I'm gonna be showing up
differently to how you're used to
have me showing up because
I'm actually you know and I have been
trying to live up to your expect
what I thought your expectations were but I realized
they may be not your expectations and so
something needs to shift here and so
it was doing the work it was noticing what was
actually wrong
um taking the rest cause I had the formal diagnosis
but then learning how
like ultimately it was learning how to have the
deep vulnerable conversations with my husband
so that I could show up fully and authentically within
within our relationship
and then that changed everything so
like that was couple of
two plus 2 three years ago now
now my ability to say hey
that's not sitting well with me or hey um
this is how I'm feeling and this is what's going on with me or
hey like really sharing all of myself
and my interests and my dreams and what I wanna do
like that's something I wasn't openly doing
before is that something that I'm regularly
still practicing now and I'm still doing
that's so good what does
nervous system regulation
mean there seems to be a lot of talk
about that but what does it actually mean
yeah nervous system regulation there is a lot of talk
around that and there is a lot of talk around
nervous system regulation
being the goal
as in we want to be regulated all the time
and I just want to put out there that the goal
and and even with my work with women the goal is not
to always be regulated
because that's completely unrealistic
the goal is to balance
our
balance our the stimulation
with times of rest so much like
it like especially if you're a woman in business
and you're wanting
growth in your life there is going to be stress
associated
with that because you're stepping out of your comfort
zone so if you want growth
the stress will be associated with that
however nervous system regulation is around
it's around knowing
what does regulate your nervous system
knowing how to help your nervous system recover
from times of growth and really balancing that
it's also when I talk nervous system regulation it's
creating
a connection within yourself
to what is regulating and restful for you so as women
we need more rest we need to trust our feminine flow
we need spaciousness we you know as women
at the moment we're very
stuck in our masculine which is constant go go go go
go so when I speak to women and
and we talk nervous system regulation
they're often in their stress
response they often are living in a stress
response constantly
and so what we wanna do is reduce the time spent
living in our stress response
and balance it with periods of regulation
and spaciousness and feminine flow and we
I think before this call started we were talking about
um we were talking about being women in business and
burnout and stuff and so the biggest lessons
I have Learned about being a woman in business
in terms of what works for me and what creates more
success for me and this is what I've really Learned
over the last 18 months is the more that I do
do do do do all the things and tick
the boxes and tick the list
and do the non negotiable tasks and do it
from a ticking the boxes and processes point of view
the more likely I am to get tired from that
whereas when I balance
the non negotiable income producing
um activities in my business with
looking after myself so going for my walks
doing my meditation
pauses in my day so time between my appointments
and all client bookings time for me
I move into a different energy whereby I attract
more
of the right people who want to work with me whereas
when I'm just ticking
the boxes and doing things from a systems
point of view and which takes a lot of time
which means not
including any nervous system regulation
um walks by the beach rest flow pauses in my day
then it works to a point but then it stops
because some I don't know I'm not haven't yet nailed
the magic
behind this but it seems as though when I look after myself
business does better
then when I focus 100% on business
and not look after myself
then business doesn't do so well
so what I'm learning about being a
a woman in business is
I need to create spaciousness for me which
in which means
doing the activities which connect me to
the regulated part of my nervous system
if that makes sense
yeah and so when you say regulate your nervous system
so that's to
calm your body that's to like slow your thoughts down
just to go a bit slower is that what you mean
yeah well it's essentially
finding time to not be in your in your stress response
so finding a activities people things places
environments
that actually are calming to your nervous system
and much like when we go to the gym you
if you take on too much stress you injure yourself
right so if you go to the gym and go hard straight away you injure yourself
the goal and so we it's same with our nervous
system we don't wanna bite off more than we chew
can chew and and hurt ourselves and
and go too far and burn ourselves out which is what I initially
did we want to work up to certain activities
within our business so if there are activities we find
stressful it's like we need to um expose ourselves
to it gradually and build our tolerance
build our muscle build our regulation muscle
our ability to stay regulated within the the
hard things or or
connected to regulation within the hard things
and build in recovery time
like you don't go to the gym
two days in a row and workout the same muscle
it's the same with our nervous
system when we are pushing ourselves
out of our comfort zone and into stress
we wanna balance that with with rest and recovery
yeah yeah that makes total sense so why is it
important you said you're a trauma informed coach
why is it important to heal that trauma
with an integrated approach that works
both with your nervous system and your beliefs
good question
so nervous system
a disregulated nervous system
comes from like if you're
in heightened and disregulation a lot of the time
the root cause of that is unhealed trauma
and so if we only
practice nervous system regulation
techniques if we only do the breath
work and the tapping and the breathing and
the walks by the beach and the affirmations
and the journaling which might all be regulating
for our nervous
system if we only do that we're actually not healing
the underlying trauma that is causing
the nervous system dysregulation in the first place
so nervous system regulation without trauma healing is
uh very time consuming and
nervous system regulation does not heal past trauma
on its own
so we
does that make sense yeah I'm just gonna say what
what does trauma look like like does it look like
like you said you were raised in a very um
religious strict religious environment
um does trauma look like
something you know so significant like that or
you know we know about child abuse or
abuse in the family anything like that or does trauma
include more things rather than those like really
significant things that we think about
when we say trauma
yeah that's a great question too so trauma refers to
anything
it's
a hard one to sum up but the best way to think about it is there's big
t trauma and little t trauma
so there's the big things that happened
to you things that you couldn't
control that happened to you whether it be abuse
whether it be a car accident whether it be
parents that were um
yeah not kind to you there could be sexual abuse
but it's all all those things that happened
they're the big t traumas the little t
traumas are the things that didn't happen
that can be the neglect
and that can be the expectations
that were placed upon you
it can be as Gabriel Mateo
talks about it it's not having free play in which like
as a space in which you can
have free play as a child
where maybe you had to grow up quick quicker
to look after parents who had addiction
or maybe you had to deal
with the oldest of younger siblings so you were
responsible well before your years that's a
that can be a little t trauma for people
it can be not having a safe space to express yourself
and all of your emotions
so if your emotions were invalidated or shamed or
if there was not space for you fully to express
your emotions then that can be a little t trauma
if you had to work to earn love
so you had to be a certain way in order to remain
attached in order to have that love
then that can be a little t trauma and so these
all these little t traumas
like a lot of people don't think of trauma like that they're like well
yeah I grew up in the 80s
isn't that what everyone went through
yeah it kind of is yet at the same time if you're
struggling
from a lot of disregulation or you're struggling with
indecision or you're struggling with people pleasing
or you're struggling with procrastination
or self sabotage and you can't follow through
then I guarantee you there is some kind of little t
trauma at the least that is actually stopping you
from help then then from having your actions
match what you say you wanna do
hmm yeah right cause I like I am very very grateful
very fortunate that I have not experienced any of that
T1 trauma that that big trauma
um but when you're talking about it those
smaller traumas I think not through intention
but I've still experienced them
so it's and that's probably the way that
I have seen myself and the way that I have um
leveled the expectation
upon what it is that I want and how I wanna do it
um I've made things mean things along the way which
have then translated
into something that haven't been super helpful
so when we're talking about um like this is a
I talk money mindset grounded rich girl coach
when we're talking about
healing trauma nervous system regulation beliefs
how does that play into the way that we show up with our money
and the way that we move forward with
this ground of rich girl life of deciding what I want
and stepping into it
so
my coach Mastin Kip says that there are
two reasons why we don't have what we want
says one is your nervous system
doesn't feel safe to have it
for some reason or
another so based on your history your nervous system
doesn't feel safe to have it or a missing skill set
and the thing is most of us know what we need to do
we're just not doing it and so in terms of
stepping into the rich girl life and stepping into a a
a a
uh
an a place and energy whereby it feels safe for you to
receive money is really important so if there's any
trauma around you receiving
um potentially maybe it doesn't feel safe to receive
maybe it doesn't
feel safe to have money cause in your childhood
having money meant this or or maybe you Learned
you know you would you would do a lot on the money beliefs
but if your parents
spoke badly about people who had money
then in your nervous
system it's like oh I don't wanna be one of those but you might not have conscious
memory of that cause of course we all want
money and we all want an easier life
but there's the underlying
belief systems at play that stop us from feeling
but belief systems but also
experiences that are stored in our nervous system
that stop us from feeling safe from
either being able to receive
being able to handle money being able to have money
so we really need to work on those more unconscious
ah patterns that stop us
from from being able to step into
the person the being the behaviours
you know the attitudes
that we really want to be able to
and does it um
like if you have a trauma does it specifically
need to be around
money or the way that you deal with money to then
have that trauma in our nervous system around money now
does that make sense like do do we need to have
something that specifically
happened or that we saw around money
as in those old money beliefs to now feel the trauma
around money or do they the beliefs and the situations
interact or crossover there's a lot of crossover
in the interaction of all of that so
I I in my program I talk about the archetypes um
archetypes like
good girl archetype people pleaser archetype
you know the martyr archetype the
successful woman archetype the the lone wolf like the
in the the hyper independent superwoman
and so depending on
our childhood and how we were raised and what we observed
around what we how we needed to be in the world
a lot of women
unconsciously get their value from
over giving to others that's how they they
show they're worthy they give and give and give beyond
what they um are really
beyond what they really can sustain
and that's where they gain
their worth for example and so someone
like that that's in that kind of archetype
may maybe people wanna give more to her but she can't
receive she's like no it's my job to look after you
and so things like that would definitely
tie into our ability to receive money as women
to depending on on our career choice
but especially in in women and in the healing
industry or even
you know coaching industry if if we it
there can be a lot of ah
but I need to give or there's there's
the ideas we hold ourselves up to as to what
level of standard we need to
have provide to be able to receive without feeling
guilty or bad about it you know what I mean does that make sense
so it's all very indefinite yeah
and and I agree I think that um
we don't necessarily have to have a belief around
money in particular but it's a belief around ourselves
which then translates into
how we show up with money or
other actions that we take or that we don't take
which then impact our relationship with money
yeah 100%
hmm so how do we like you've
you've talked about nervous system regulation
how do we do it what do we need to do what is the
what is the thing that we need to do so we can get
get regulated um so that we can
like cause I see so many women who are ready to step up
are ready to do that next thing but they just
there's something stopping them there's something
that just is holding them back maybe it's fear
maybe it's that unknown of what it is that I want
well they I think they know what they want but they just
they're so safe where they are right now
that it feels super scary to step into something new
hmm
what can I do that's a big question and it's
not something I can answer in one like he just gives
give us like a quick answer
you know when we talk about my my see
3 steps specialized approach it it approach it's
awareness
so it's awareness of what our nervous
system is doing of how our past
trauma is impacting us and also of what's happening in our body
in any given situation so that we can
we can really notice
what's happening for us in the moment
step 2 is attunement
and step 2 is really the ability to drop into the body
and asks the body
for answers firstly notice what's happening
there's a process of attunement that I teach in my program but notice
what's happening in the body
drop into that part of the body
tell it I see you I hear you thanks for getting
my attention and then we from there
ask start to ask her questions like how old
how old do you think I am because parts of whole trauma
get frozen at that age
so there are parts of us running
our business that could be 3 years old
or 2 years old or 7 years old right
and so we drop in deeply
I ask how old do you think I am from there they
will often share
will also ask how did you get your job and this part of us if we're asking
the body not the brain the body has the answers
and we can actually connect in with younger parts like I had a
thing around fear of money and I connected
in with a part that was still in my mother's womb
okay and I don't consciously
remember that but through asking the body I was able to
to tune
into these answers so attunement is dropping into the body and knowing
how to ask these questions
first and then with thanking
them thank you for trying to keep me safe
really appreciate you I can see how hard you've been working
and that part will often then soften
quite a lot and go oh okay I'm not in trouble
thank goodness and then we ask is there anything
else you wanna share with me and that part will share
what what was happening for them and then we ask
what did you need back then but didn't get
and then they share
well I just needed to know it was safe or I just needed
my big brother to
protect me or I just needed blah blah blah but
whatever they needed
we as grown ass women can now provide for them
we can provide the
Protection we can be the love the recognition
the validation the safety whatever it
is that they needed
back then we can be that in that moment and so we do we
because
we are that in that moment for that little part
and then we let them know
it's safe now I've got you and
hey guess what I'm this many years old now
let them know hey and often that little part
who's much younger is surprised and they go
oh really or they might go
oh you're old or like they're just like
so surprised that we're as old as we are now
and so we let them know it's
it's safe now I've got you and things are different
now and and
like with the work that I do with women I kind of encourage
them to share anything with that part
that would be relevant to helping them feel safe
and catching
them up on on what's happening in life today
and then from there um we ask them you know
we make sure they feel safe
we make sure they're fully expressed
we make sure they're fully witnessed
we make sure their need is met
and then when all of that is done well
then we can ask them
or let them know well now that you know that it's safe
now and you don't have to do that job anymore
what would you rather do instead
and we allow them to self
select into something else and often again depends
on the age of the part but often
they just wanna go off and play or they just wanna rest
or they just wanna be creative and dance and
whatever they wanna do we we say OK cool
go do that now I've got this you can get my
attention anytime I'm here for you
and through that process whatever
feeling we started out with
once we come back it has often lifted
and the friction the resistance that we were feeling
against doing the thing that we say we wanted to do
has often eased significantly
and then we can go do that thing and then
and that's what really completes it because
a lot of people do inner child
work and they think they need to do what the inner
child wants to do and that's not true
we actually need to lead as the regulated adult and so
again my coach Maston
talks about we do all this inner
child work but we don't do the inner adult work
and so the inner adult work is then okay we've
connected with that part they've now
going off and playing and whatever
we now need to step up in our regulated self
into the adult self and go do the thing
and through then doing the thing after we've connected
in with that part
we create what we call the corrective emotional
experience
so we rewire the nervous system for a new experience
and that's where we really complete things because now
we have evidence from today showing that that
little part of us that things really are different now
and then we can continue to build on that and build
that pathway in the nervous system to show that shows
our nervous system it is completely safe to move on
and so that's a long
there's a lot to it this is what we do in my Cycle Breakers
program we over nine modules in nine weeks but
that essentially is is
the process I take my women through through anything
that's coming up in different
areas of life so it could be in conversations
it could be with their boss
it could be in their relationship with money it could be a fear
they have an emotion they have we can do that process
and that allows them to get it a release that is enough
so that they can move on and do the different action
and and create the new experience
hmm I would think create a doing the action
is such an important part of it because
like you said that reinforces
that you can do it you are good at it you are safe
and just shows you the evidence
that you are actually doing it rather than being pulled
back into that well I can't it's too hard I don't know what to do
it is the most
important part I would say after you have connected
well like attuned well with that younger part 100%
a lot of people will do the inner work but then they're not doing the outer action
the outer action is essential to rewiring that pattern
hmm otherwise you would
I presume you'd just slip back into those old patterns
you will if you don't go like say it's
so you're avoiding having a conversation
we work with the part they feel better
you don't go and have that conversation
two weeks later
you're like oh why aren't I having that conversation
it's like so you need to follow it up with the action
to complete the rewiring of the nervous system
hmm hmm amazing so
I just love
the work that you do you are such a beautiful
human and you have always supported me and encouraged
me and and held that space
for me too when my nervous system has been like ah
crazy what um
how can people find you what is the work you do you've mentioned your programs
a couple of times but where can people find you and
how can I work with you
yeah people can find me on Facebook Naomi Galliano
um my personal profile so you can follow
follow me there or send me a friend request
I have an Instagram page called heal like a woman um
all kind of one word no underscores or anything
like that so not super active on there but I am
I'm picking it up so uh here like a woman
I also have my website Naomi Galliano dot com dot au
uh they can reach out to me via Messenger ideally
that's the best place to get me via Messenger if they
want more information on anything I do in my programs
I also run
a free 5 day challenge one on one still at the moment
whereby they can if they want to discover
their underlying patterns and the root cause
of why they're not moving
forward in the way that they want to we can
help them with that through the one on one challenge
so that's that's super cool as well so
again they would just need to message me directly
for for that for info on that
amazing and I I just know this work
that we keep talking
about and I've done quite a few interviews lately about
um like this nervous system regulation this underlying
work the burnout
the you know just really connecting into yourself
because I know when you show up as your best self
you can then make decisions with your money which
feel more aligned
which mean you take the action which mean that you
you are just calm and from there you can decide
what it is that you want and actually do it so that is why I
am bringing all these beautiful
amazing special guests on because
I just know how much they have helped me to be able to
to just move forward and do the things that I wanna do so
anything final that you wanna share with our audience
oh just remember
remember you like remember that you matter too
and actually I wanna leave you with this final thought
as women we are conditioned to look after others
we are conditioned to think that others are more
important than us
we are conditioned to think that it's selfish to take time for ourselves and our needs
and I wanna just really quickly
quickly introduce you to this idea
of just placing your needs equally
okay don't put your oxygen mask on first or anything
like that like don't
none of this like just just think of your needs
as equal to everyone around you so
they have needs and you really wanna meet their needs
right and you have needs too like you're human
and both can be met
their needs can be met
and your needs can be met as well
so I wanna leave you with this idea
that your needs are just
as important as anybody
else's not more important not less important just
equally as important
and when you start to consider your needs in everything
that you do
then everything that you do will blossom and and bloom
so just you know just remember you remember you matter
your needs matter too
oh that is so good thank you so much
I will have all of Naomi's links everywhere uh
thank you for joining me I just
as I said I am so grateful for you I love you
and just so appreciate you oh thank you so much and
thank you and I love you and thank
I just appreciate everything
that you do and really appreciate you having me on
today Aaron thank you